Whenever we go through any trouble, we create a fantasy world in our mind. One where there are no problems and we are sailing. These dreams change as the deadlines we create pass. One of my reoccurring dreams? I win the lottery. A common enough dream. But what I do with that may be different. I get my husband into the US. And then I donate to others to get their spouses into the US. We set up shop somewhere with snow during the winter yet where it doesn't get too cold, nor does winter last too long or summer get too hot and last too long then either. Or, sometimes we stay in Mexico, and we build a great house in a secure area with a business that thrives and can afford solar panels and climate control. Somewhere calm yet busy. No, I have no clue where in reality these places exist.
My children have their own dreams, and I know my husband dreams of his ideal place. For my kids, it's somewhere with kind teachers, their grandparents within 20 minutes, and central heating/AC. For my husband, somewhere he can fish, open his own business, and be able to take time off to travel. The common thread is "more than survival and filled with people who truly care and don't take advantage of kindness.". The problem is, that place doesn't exist. But I'm sure we all dream of it. Different people, places, and themes... but the same commonality.
We've had our battles, and I know they are less than others. Yet, they are more than others. On the surface, we aren't that bad off. But hidden are the battles that we fought, the struggles and saving and choices that ended with us having what we have. The things we have struggled and battled for I will not give up. Be it figuratively or materially. If I had to, I would. However, if I have other options, why give them up? I've given up enough, my kids have given up enough. Why put them through more?
For now, I continue dreaming... and when my children dream their impossible dreams, I refuse to pop their bubbles. Because, sometimes those "impossible" dreams become possible. And other times, those "impossible" dreams keep us grounded until a more realistic dream is within our grasp. Keep dreaming. Never give up. Your dreams will adapt to your situation, and one day, you will get to live that dream.